Legacy- who will remember you, for what?

When we don’t learn lessons at the right time, life will teach us the same lessons at the wrong time.

Death today is a common experience to most, if not all of us folks. If I’m not the one writhing to the painful tunes it leaves behind savagely, someone else, sure is dancing under its realm. 

Over the past decade I have lost and seen many of my loved ones go from the face of the earth into the deep sleep of death.

 Some have gone with their good deeds trailing slowly behind them while some, sad to say, have melted away like dew. More like they never existed. Extinct.

One thing evident about death, as much as it rouses wanton and dark thoughts, is that it chooses anyone and can come at any age or time. When I was young I thought only old people die…full of life’s experiences and rich,ripe in age but growing up, I have buried someone close who was barely out of teenage hood with all their dreams and ambitions tossed into nothingness like chaff. It’s sad but it’s the reality of life.

If today were your last day on earth, how would you be remembered?

Life is a blink. It all rushes by in a fast, little flash when you really get down to it. The time to think about legacy and how you want to be remembered is not on your last day but now. That way you can live your life backward and make certain that you have a good ending.

Unfortunately most of us don’t figure out what work and life are all about until we’re too old to do anything about it. Most people dont discover how to live until just before they die.

During their best years, too many are in a walking coma. Not really conscious to what’s truly important in life: showing leadership,actualizing your potential and doing your part to change the world through the work you are doing and the person you are becoming.

Only when confronted with the wake up call of an imminent end do the sleep walkers start to dig beyond the superficial and go deep. They begin to realize that at birth they’d received stunning talents and precious gifts along with the corresponding responsibility to polish that genius so they could express itself over them in the process. 

By the time all this sinks in and it’s time to figure it out; it’s too late to do anything about it. So they die unfulfilled.

Are you a sleep walker sailing aimlessly through life? What’s your purpose? Any legacy you’ll leave if today was your last day on earth?


8 Things in Life you should start doing

“If only…”  These two words paired together create one of the saddest phrases in the English language.

Here are eight choices that ultimately lead to this phrase of regret, and how to elude them throughout 2018:

1.  Worrying about mistakes you’ve already made. – It’s OK if you’ve messed up in the past; that’s how you get wiser. Give yourself a break. Don’t give up. Great things take time, and you’re getting there. Let your mistakes be your motivation, not your excuses. Decide right now that negative experiences from your past won’t predict your future.

2.  Wearing a mask to impress others. – If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it.  Because when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really are.  So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you.  You don’t have to be perfect to impress people.  Let them be impressed by how you deal with your imperfections.

3.  Keeping negative company. – Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you.  Don’t let them get to you.  They can’t pull the trigger if you don’t hand them the gun.  When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation, you free yourself to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety.

4.  Holding tight to resentment. – Kindness is not to be mistaken for weakness, nor forgiveness for acceptance. It’s about knowing that resentment is not on the path to happiness. Remember, you don’t forgive people because you’re weak. You forgive them because you’re strong enough to know that people make mistakes.

5.  Settling for less than you deserve. – Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to fight for what you deserve.  Sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand up taller than you ever were before.  Sometimes your eyes need to be washed by your tears so you can see the possibilities in front of you with a clearer vision again.  Don’t settle.

6.  Endlessly waiting until tomorrow. – The trouble is, you always think you have more time than you do.  But one day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to work on the things you’ve always wanted to do.  And at that point you either will have achieved the goals you set for yourself, or you will have a list of excuses for why you haven’t.

7.  Being lazy and wishy-washy. – The world doesn’t owe you anything, you owe the world something.  So stop daydreaming and start DOING.  Develop a backbone, not a wishbone.  Take full responsibility for your life – take control.  You are important and you are needed.  It’s too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday.  Someday is now; the somebody the world needs is YOU.

8.  Being more busy than you are productive. – There’s a big difference between being busy and being productive. Don’t confuse motion and progress. A rocking horse keeps moving but never makes any forward progress.

Today is the first day of the rest of your life.  At the end of it, let there be no excuses, no explanations, and no regrets.  You can make adjustments starting NOW that will help you feel better, think more clearly, and live a life free of regrets.

Own your life…